Biblical Submission

I came upon this article in a blog that I read. The blog hilighted Guideline #2, but I read through the rest of the article and found Guideline #3 to be particularly helpful in understanding my relationship with my husband. I often forget this part (that we are co-heirs in Christ together) and focus more on the wife part.

Guideline #3: A wife is also a sister in Christ to her husband.

In Christian marriage, the spousal relation­ship is not the only one that characterizes the involvement of a man and wife. For Christians, a wife is married to her brother in Christ. All the passages in Scripture about marriage are relevant to a Christian wife, but all the passages about walk­ing with a brother in the Lord are also relevant to her.⁹ This means a wife will not be a good sister in Christ if she engages in behavior that tends to lead her husband into sin (Rom 14:23), or if she avoids rebuking her husband in his sin (Luke 17:3; Gal 6:1-2).¹⁰ one of God's greatest gifts to me is a sis­ter in Christ who sees me more closely than anyone else and, so, is equipped to point out sin in my life that nobody else sees. Marital submission does not mean that a wife ceases to be a fellow Christian along with her husband. Likewise, marital author­ity does not insulate a man from being helped in his sanctification by his wife. Because a wife is called to submit to her husband she will need to think about how to engage her husband in a respectful way, but she must not avoid it all together. If a husband sins against his wife "during the day" she should talk to him about it and rebuke him with respect.

from: http://www.cbmw.org/Journal/Vol-15-No-2/Breaking-the-Marital-Impasse-How-Authority-and-Submission-Work-When-Spouses-Disagree